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The Scheming Saboteur

Is self-sabotage standing in the way of you achieving your goals? Limiting beliefs born from past conditioning may have created a scheming saboteur out of you. Yes, that’s right, you may be sabotaging your life and don’t even know it.

One of the most prevalent limiting beliefs is the belief that we are unworthy. If you believe that you are unworthy it will be difficult to attract favourable circumstances because you will never feel good enough to receive them. Your inner saboteur will be scheming up ways to ensure your results in life are in line with your beliefs.

The inner saboteur’s job is to keep you trapped in your comfort zone and attached to what’s familiar. When things are going too well and you’re venturing into unfamiliar territory you will take a self-defeating action that will prevent you from achieving greater success.

The scheming saboteur can show up in several unsuspecting ways, but always negatively affecting your life. Just when you start to feel like you are enough, deserve more, and strive for me, your inner saboteur shows up to ensure that you fail. It devises endless reasons why you can’t do, be, have, or achieve the things you desire. So you don’t bother trying to go after desired goals because you believe that you will fail anyway. You say things like, “Why should I bother trying, I can’t have it anyway,” or “I don’t deserve to win,” or “I’m not smart enough, or “who do I think I am!” or other detrimental self-talk.

When you have been successful at anything your scheming saboteur will completely ignore or downplay any wins or successes so you feel insignificant. Your inner saboteur wants you to abandon your goals altogether because that guarantees you will never achieve your dreams.

So, how do you know if you are a scheming saboteur? If you are experiencing any of the following self-defeating behaviours on a frequent and recurring basis, you are an active saboteur working against yourself.

Self-Defeating Behaviours

  • insecurity/feeling inadequate/feelings of unworthiness
  • jealousy/envy
  • being obsessive/compulsive/overspending
  • avoiding relationships, intimacy or commitment
  • procrastination
  • a need to exaggerate/overdramatize things
  • being a people pleaser/agree with others even though you disagree
  • helplessness/a need to be rescued/playing the victim
  • defiance/rebellion
  • being controlling or manipulative/being a bully
  • the need to be in a relationship/co-dependent
  • perfectionism
  • needing validation/need for approval/needing to prove yourself

Self- defeating behaviours can be evidenced in all areas of your life including, relationships, career, health, and finances. Take a look at the areas in your life you are most dissatisfied with and see if you can recognize any of the self-defeating behaviours from the list above. If you want to eliminate self-sabotage and accompanying behaviours you must challenge limiting beliefs. Many beliefs we hold about ourselves are falsehoods that cause irrational thoughts. Let go of false beliefs and discover the truth of who you are. You are a worthy being and deserve all the best that life has to offer. You can do, be, have, and achieve anything that you desire but first, you must oust the scheming saboteur.